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Small Talks: How WI Prevents Underage Drinking

Small Talks is Wisconsin’s campaign to prevent underage drinking by encouraging short, honest conversations between kids and trusted adults. These small, early talks help shape healthy choices and build a foundation for long-term prevention.

What is a Small Talk?

Small talks are short, casual conversations that help you connect with your child on the important stuff, like underage drinking. Having lots of small talks over time helps build trust and set expectations as kids change and grow. Luckily, there’s no big production necessary. Just choose the alcohol-free moment that feels right to you. You can have a small talk anytime, anywhere.

Small talks is a campaign to encourage parents and other adults to engage in small, casual conversations with kids to educate them on the real risks of underage drinking. Underage drinking is a real problem in Wisconsin, and it starts earlier and can be more dangerous than you might think. Parents, loved ones, and other caring adults can help prevent underage drinking just by talking. Having small, casual conversations with kids can make a real difference in preventing underage drinking.

Prepare For a Small Talk
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Tips & Resources

Prevention Starts With Conversation

Know what to say and do to have a successful small talk

Small talks about underage drinking can make a big difference in a kid’s choices because they really do listen. Research shows having frequent, casual conversations about alcohol, starting around age 8, can be a lot more effective — and a lot less intimidating — than one super serious discussion. So, start talking, keep listening, and help give a kid the confidence to grow up alcohol free.

Simple Steps to Start the Conversation

How to prepare for a small talk

Preparing for a small talk is easier than you think—just a little planning can make a big impact. Learn how to create a comfortable space, choose the right moment, and speak with confidence.

Keep It Casual

No fancy script or setting required. Just think about what you want to share with your kid before diving in, and take advantage of the one-on-one moments in your family routine. Like watching television together, or riding in the car.

Control Your Emotions

Be prepared to hear things you may not expect or like very much. Try taking a few deep breaths and keep listening. Wait to talk about your feelings when you’re calm.

Set Clear Expectations

Make sure kids know that underage drinking is illegal and unacceptable. Set clear expectations for their behavior and enforce your house rules consistently.

Be a Resource

Become your kid’s go-to for information and support – instead of friends or the internet – by taking all of their questions seriously and providing calm, non-judgemental answers.

what to say

Start with simple topics like the weather, recent events, or shared surroundings. Ask open-ended questions like, “How’s your week going?” or “What brings you here today?” The goal isn’t to dive deep—it’s to break the ice and create a comfortable connection.

Ask Open Ended Questions

Get them talking by avoiding yes or no answers. Ask about their friends’ choices, their school experiences, or their thoughts on the alcohol use they see in games, on TV and social media.

Listen, Listen, Listen

Listen, Listen, LISTEN Show kids you’re interested in what they have to say. Ask questions and let their responses guide the discussion. Don’t let the script in your head distract you from what’s really being said.

Talk About The Tough Stuff

Kids can sometimes think of alcohol as a way to cope with stress or trauma in their lives. Give them a safe place to talk about those feelings instead – with you or with a licensed medical or behavioral healthcare provider.

Don't Keep Score

It’s tempting to correct kids when their info or opinions differ from your own. Avoid lecturing using scare tactics, or trying to shut them down with facts. It’ll keep the lines of communication open.

Simple Conversation Starters and Strategies to Help You Connect with Confidence

Tips & Resources for Successful Small Talks

Children go through many physical, emotional, and social changes as they grow. It’s a natural part of adolescence that can make it hard to recognize when a child is at risk for underage drinking or already drinking alcohol. That’s why it’s important to look out for changes in kids’ attitudes and behaviors that could indicate a more serious problem. Talk with kids if you notice:

Spot the Signs & Start the Talk

Changes in your teen’s behavior might be more than just growing up. Here’s how to notice red flags early and build stronger connections.

What to Watch For, What to Say, and How to Help

Big shifts like mood swings, dropping grades, or pulling away from family and friends could be signs something deeper is going on—including drinking. Look out for things like the smell of alcohol, hangover symptoms, or hidden bottles. But don’t panic—just stay involved. Spend time together, ask questions, and get to know their friends and routines. Teens who feel supported are less likely to take risks. Be a good role model, set clear rules, and don’t be afraid to talk—even if it feels awkward at first. You don’t have to be perfect, just present. And remember: helping your kid avoid alcohol starts with showing them they can count on you.

Quick Helpful Tips For Small Talks

Learn simple ways to start small talks, keep them going naturally, and connect with others in a comfortable, low-pressure way. These quick tips make it easier to break the ice and build real conversations—without the awkward moments.

Stay Involved

Share meals, share hobbies, and share time together. Have small talks on all sorts of topics, not just concerns like alcohol. Kids who feel close to parents and other caregivers are less likely to engage in unsafe behavior like underage drinking.

Know What & How They're Doing

Keep up with your kid’s activities and emotions. Know what they’re doing and who they’re with, and check on them with a call or text. They may roll their eyes, but they know you care.

Meet Your Kids Parents & Friends

Kids whose friends drink are much more likely to try alcohol themselves. Help kids choose healthy relationships, and make sure fellow caregivers know your alcohol-free rules.

Set a Good Example

Kids learn by watching those around them. If you drink, drink in moderation. Use music, laughter, exercise, or help from others to cope with everyday stress. Celebrate without alcohol and secure the alcohol in your home.

Watch This Help Small Talk Video

Get quick tips and real advice in this short video designed to help you start important conversations and stay connected.

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